The Power Of The “P” Word: Building A Mental Connection Before Sex
By: Britney Lewis
I refer to myself as an ardent feminist. Yes, I believe in being submissive. But I also believe we can be dominant as well. There is a dominance within our lady parts that we need to start utilizing. Once we give a man access to our “P” word, we are introducing him to our soul.
Our souls are intertwining. I’m absorbing all of their energy, as they are mine. How well do you know this person that you are letting into your power? If they are holding onto negative energy guess what, you just absorbed all that up. Their thoughts, feelings, desires, ect., are left as an impression on your aura. Sex is spiritual. Your “P” word is powerful, treat her as such.
As women, we are powerful beings. We provide life for crying out loud! Our vaginas give birth to humans, the most painful experience anybody can endure and live through. I’ve never personally given birth yet, but I can only imagine, a mini human coming out of my vagina! Come on now! And you are trying to tell me that women aren’t powerful? That our “P” word isn’t powerful? It’s freaking magical!
We endure so much. We are so strong. We hold so much power. The whole world would end without our birth canal. The longer you wait, the better it is. Or is it? No sex before marriage they said. Is that even realistic in 2020? Everybody always wants to bring up religion when it comes to sex. But aren’t we sexual beings? Did Jesus ever get married? You don’t think he ever had sex? Am I getting too personal? Is this offending Christians? But I’m a Christian. And these are all questions I have.
Will “holding out” until I say “I do” keep a man long term? Will this make our relationship stronger? Will we focus on other sections of our relationship because the sexual part will be on hold? Or can we still be sexual without actually having intercourse?
I’m actually in a fairly new relationship right now and these questions have all crossed my mind a few times. The current pandemic has kept us apart due to obvious reasons. And honestly, I feel like it has helped us get to know each other extremely well on a mental level. Like where is his head at? How does his mind think? And *looks around the room* I hate being mushy, but I’m falling more and more everyday with his mental. Our conversations are deep. I’m all ears when he is speaking to me. I crave to know everything in his brain. I tell him all the time I wish I could be in your head for five seconds. I can only imagine having such a deep connection with his mental and us bringing that into the bedroom.
I always preach that sex is mental. And it is. The brain is the biggest sex organ. If you are falling for somebody’s intellect and sex is mental, that’s a recipe for amazing sex right there. But should I “hold out” because I don’t want to ruin things between us? Should I “hold out” because I’m a Christian woman searching for a husband? Hebrews 13:4 says, “Marriage should be honored by everyone, and husband and wife should keep their marriage pure. God will judge as guilty those who take part in sexual sins.” What is meant by sexual sins?
Opening up your legs is a gamble ladies. The bible says to wait until marriage. But who is really doing that now a days? It’s your body, your choice. Pray about it. I’ve told myself the next man I lay down with will be my husband. But what if it doesn’t work out that way. What if he doesn’t end up being my husband? It’s all scary to think about. Rushing into sex is definitely a no go. But how long should you “hold out”? Until a ring is on your finger? Or until y’all have a mutual understanding of what’s to come? Does anybody have the perfect answer? Or is the perfect answer to listen to the bible? But what if we wait, get married and the sex is horrible? Now I’m married and stuck with a man I hate having sex with. What a nightmare.
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