So You’ve Been Cheated On: Picking Yourself Up After Betrayal
By: Lauryn Bass
A personal note for those who need comfort during a difficult time of broken promises.
So you’ve been cheated on.
Many thoughts circle your head at once when this happens. Whether you saw it coming or it caught you completely by surprise, it sucks. It truly does. You put your all into the relationship, no matter the time span, to end up here. Never could’ve imagined yourself in this position. Used to see and comment on how others have handled this same situation, but you don’t understand what someone is feeling until it happens to you.
So.. you’ve been cheated on.
Trying to understand why, can only make you feel worse. “Why, if, but, then”..you gotta let that go. All of these questions will only lead you to negative thoughts of sadness or anger. No need for all of that to continue because you know what?
You’ve been cheated on.
The betrayal of your trust is one thing, but to look silly in front of others is another. As public as your relationship was, people always had their opinions...people always have opinions. Fact is, no one was right or wrong, neither were you about what happened. Someone made a mistake and here we are to deal with it and move on.
So..you’ve been cheated on?
The denial is real when you find out. It doesn’t feel real when it first occurs. “Am I being pranked?” crosses the mind several times, especially when the truth comes from someone else and not your once thought to be “significant other.” You literally used to give advice based on this relationship that you were building. Those gems are still valid..but boy does it feel like a slap in the face. A realization of this pain can bring forth so many new feelings, but taking the necessary steps to explore and accept it healthily will be the best decision you’ll make for the future.
So.
From here, remind yourself that you’re going to be alright. You always have been and you always will be. This was not your fault. Do not judge your worth off of the person who didn’t see it. You are now embarking on a new journey of life, and your experiences will only make you stronger. You have options. Get out there and continue to live out your wildest dreams. Things seem shaky right now, but with time they will calm down and settle back into place.
Love, Yourself <3
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