Can You Have A Casual Hookup Just As Friends?
Sex is the most intimate thing you can do with a person, so is this really something you want to do with someone you call your friend? Friends with benefits relationships are extremely risky because even though both people have mutually agreed to have sex with no attachments, sex can easily raise your emotions. For men, men will almost have sex with anything moving if you gave them an opportunity to, so a casual hookup is a lot easier for men than it is for women.
Even though women say they can handle a relationship like this, 9 times out of 10 this is false! Women believe they can handle a casual hookup just as friends until they get hooked by good sex and now their emotions are taking over. Sex can unleash emotions you never thought you had, and good sex can turn the calmest women crazy. Understand that if you’re engaging in a casual hookup with your friend, you’re putting your whole friendship at risk.
Engaging in this type of relationship can bring on a host of emotions including jealousy. With no strings attached, you can’t be mad at the other person for talking to other people. This might seem easy at first, but again, sex brings on emotions you probably thought you could deal with at first. Casual sex is nothing to play around with, especially if it’s one of your good friends. For a friends with benefits relationship to work, boundaries have to be set from the get go and no matter what, those lines can’t be crossed even when emotions start to creep in. If you’re not good at communicating, and you know you wear your emotions on your sleeve, you’re just setting yourself up for failure by even getting involved.
So since this is just a casual hookup, and your just friends right, what happens when one person starts dealing with another person, or even a potential relationship? Does the sex stop there? Do you still maintain a friendship while the other person is in a relationship? A better question would be, if you get into a relationship after having casual hookups with your friend, do you let your new boyfriend or girlfriend know that you hooked up with this friend or is this a secret you’re going to the grave with? Flip the roles. Would you be okay with your boyfriend or girlfriend keeping a friendship going with someone they were having casual sex with?
We can all agree that sex is fun, but sex can destroy a relationship, better yet a friendship. You have to be special kind of person to be able to have a friends with benefits relationship because it’s almost as if you have to put your emotions to the side and act as if they don’t exist for it to work. If you’re a heartless person who’s okay with doing things with no attachments, then okay, this might be the perfect relationship for you. You could argue that you’re being safe with your sex life by having sex with someone you trust. Understandable. But again, this is a dangerous line to cross!
How long can a relationship like this even really last or is this just something you do in the meantime between time until you’re ready to settle down? If having sex with your friend is what you want to do, no one is stopping you or condemning you. Just understand you are opening pandora’s box and allowing a number of potential issues to creep into what once was just an innocent friendship.
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