Practicing Gratitude And Mindfulness Are Keys To Reclaiming Your Inner Peace
Reclaiming your inner peace and regaining control over your life starts by showing daily gratitude and being aware of your thoughts.
By: Sydni Hatley
In our world, everything is so fast pace. It all started with the Industrial Revolution and somehow we ended up with iphones and social media at the forefront of our progress? Either way, American culture values quantity over quality, work over rest, and expensive lifestyles over good mental health.
With everything moving so fast and a lack of “enjoy-the-moment” culture, losing yourself is easy. Not to mention the fact that you have constant reminders of everyone else’s rapid success in the palm of your hand. We get so caught up in what everyone else is doing, or what the newest product available for clout-consumption is, that we lose ourselves in the process of living.
Too many people walk around feeling depleted and low on confidence, energy, drive, and optimism. The reason for this is because so much of our energy and sense of self-worth is measured by what the next person is doing and what’s happening around us---it is not coming from ourselves. This is where the practice of gratitude and mindfulness come in.
When we as people begin reflecting on and acknowledging all of the amazing things that we do have in our lives, what we “don’t” seem to have becomes futile. Many times we have already achieved so much in life that gets undermined because we are too busy looking at someone else’s life and comparing, thinking what we have is not enough, or we feel we can’t enjoy what we already have because something new is always trending around us.
People also tend to think that reflecting on what they have measures up to material things like money, cars, or clothes, however showing gratitude can simply be recognizing just how lucky you are to have a loving family, and friends that care about you. Giving thanks for a roof over your head, food in your home, and even your health are also ways of showing gratitude for the things we don’t always pay attention to in our culture. Not everyone wakes up every day, or can say they have people that love and care about them. So, instead of focusing on the next person or material thing that is trending, reclaim your life by counting your blessings and not taking the little things for granted.
You reclaim your inner peace and regain control over your life by showing daily gratitude and also by practicing mindfulness. Mindfulness is simply being aware of what you think and which thoughts you internalize. You have all types of thoughts daily, good and bad. What matters is that you feed into the good ones, and let the bad ones pass.
For instance, if you continuously compare your body to someone on instagram and think things to yourself like, “my waist is not as tiny as hers” or “I’m not as good looking as him”, you start to believe you are not of as much worth as that person or the next person to look like them---you have a bad thought, and hold onto it. This causes you to vibrate lower and lose sight of what actually matters in life. Practicing mindfulness means the minute you think something negative about yourself, you release it.
Regard these thoughts as nothing more than negative mentalities that do not serve you, and begin to show yourself love instead. Combat negative thoughts about yourself or your life with positive affirmations like “I am good enough”, “I am smart enough”, “I am worthy”, and more importantly, “I don’t have to look or be a certain way to still be successful in life”. Mindfulness will allow you to slow down and realize your truest value, while gratitude reminds you that all you have is just enough.
The moment you release the need to keep up with the crowd and internalize the social pressures of our society, the more you will put yourself first, appreciate your life, and truly flourish in it. Show love to yourself and your life because you only get one! When you stop to smell the roses and fully appreciate your existence, you’ll see your life is more abundant with goodness than you ever realized.
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3 Tips To Surviving Life As an Empath
To be an empath is to feel and absorb the energy of people and places around you and it’s extremely important to know how to balance and realign your own energy before it runs dry. Here are 3 tips to surviving life as an empath!
“It is both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so very deeply”
By: Sydni Hatley
To be an empath is to feel and absorb the energy of people and places around you. Most of the time, empaths are able to pick up on the energy of a person before they even meet them, and whatever energy they receive gets internalized. Physically, if an empath walks into a space where there was previously a bunch of toxicity (arguments, domestic violence, drug abuse, etc), their spirit can literally feel that and unfortunately gets dragged down because of it. Knowing this, for empaths it’s extremely important to know how to balance and realign your own energy before it runs dry.
I’ve found that most empaths tend to be viewed as healers within their circles because of their ability to not only empathize with the world around them, but also offer advice to help remedy difficult situations. So, as an empath, how do you remain balanced within your own world? After all, the healer needs to heal themselves sometimes too. As one myself, I’ve come up with a few simple and easy methods to honor our empathetic ways, while still saving room for our sanity:
1. Set Your Boundaries
You tend to attract people who are broken, confused, and may come to you to be uplifted. Remember how I said most people pick up on the ability of empaths to heal? If you have had a bad day yourself, or are in a space where you don’t feel like having that draining conversation with that one friend, politely decline their request to speak to you on it and simply tell them “right now is not the best time”. Let them know you’ll get back to them, but recognize and honor your inner need to recharge.
2. Don’t Check Social Media Off the Wake Up
We are living in stressful times. With news being so accessible (and usually negative), that is just more opportunity for your day to get off to a bad start. As an empath, we don’t want any chances of absorbing negativity, especially when the day’s JUST begun. Take some time instead to show gratitude for what you do have and how blessed you are when you first wake up. Focus on the things that bring you joy. Remind yourself of all the beauty that is your life! Start off on the right foot, and you’re more likely to carry positive vibes throughout your day.
3. Pray and Set Good Intentions For Those Around You
Understand that you cannot protect, save, and fix everyone, nor is that your job. As much as we see pain in the world, it is easy to get overwhelmed by it because we want everyone to be at peace and happy. The moment you feel yourself internalizing the pain of others, redirect that energy by either praying for their peace (if you believe in prayer), or simply set positive intentions by sending loving energy in their direction. You can do so by taking the time out of your day to close your eyes, think of that person, and say aloud “this too shall pass”. This serves as an affirmation and reminder to yourself and their situation that whatever pain they are experiencing will not last---because in truth, it won’t.
We are superheroes in our own right, but it’s possible to still prioritize our peace while caring for those around us. -Sydni Hatley
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Need A Boost? 10 Ways To Stay Motivated And Energized
During this pandemic, it has become easy to fall out of routine and find yourself feeling stuck in a pool of laziness. Don’t let this stop your progress! Here are 10 ways to stay motivated and energized!
By: Lauryn Bass
During this pandemic, it has become easy to fall out of routine and find yourself feeling stuck in a pool of laziness. Don’t let this stop your progress! It’s okay to have cheat days; it’s always important to rest and take some time to self-indulge — but your journey doesn’t have to end there. When you find yourself lacking motivation and needing a boost, try these things to get you back on track!
1. Keep water in your space.
Staying up past midnight and sleeping in until 3pm has become such a routine that our bodies start to miss the essential water intake during the irregular sleeping cycles. This can lead to dehydration, which then explains the sluggishness that we all are experiencing. Keeping water in your system as much as possible during the day can help you keep your energy high.
2. Try eating fruit for dessert.
Late night sweet tooth is REAL! But it doesn’t always have to be full of calories. Try reaching for the foods with natural sugars to tame this craving in the midnight hours. You can even search up different ways to make cool snacks out of fruit that mimic the style of a classic dessert.
3. Find quick 10 minute workouts on YouTube.
Going to the gym during the pandemic is a NO-GO! This has led to many families incorporating an at-home gym. If you don’t have access to this kind of equipment, exercise videos are the way to go. Many trainers have posted various workouts that target specific areas of the body that are perfect to perform right on your living room floor. I guarantee a couple laughs along the way as you listen to each trainer who are also very good entertainers as well.
4. Commit to a personal challenge.
Challenging yourself can bring excitement and fulfillment once it is completed. Some can be mental and others can be physical, nonetheless, results of growth are always the end-goal. Some examples of challenges found in the threads of social media are the #GallonWaterChallenge, #JumpRopeChallenge, #SquatChallenge, #YogaChallenge, and #Plexers. There’s plenty to research and try that will surely get you out of a funk. Different challenges can range from 3-30 days and of course when you’re done, try another!
5. Try a challenge with your friends.
It’s always more fun to do things with others! We’re all quarantining together, so invite your friends to track their progress of a detox with you. Try an oatmeal-banana facial mask, stretching until you can do a split, a detox lemon-water, and take pictures along the way.
6. Pick up a new sport.
Social distancing doesn’t mean that you can’t go outside. So try a new outdoor sport! Roller skating has become super popular lately and can be practiced in the empty streets of your neighborhood or in your driveway. Find that dusty hula hoop in your garage from years ago and shake those hips in the sunlight. This is sure to get your heart rate going faster than when you’re sitting on the couch.
7. Keep records of your achievements.
The year of 2020 will go down in history. We need to have stories to tell our children about what all we experienced during the pandemic. In all seriousness, journaling or taking pictures are great ways to express the feelings of the memories that will be with us forever from this moment.
8. Visionboard to keep inspiration around you.
It’s always good to keep a visual representation of your goals in eye-view. As much as hearing your affirmations is a great way to keep things positive, seeing them in their true form is as well. Get out your arts and crafts to begin creating posters of where you want to be in life. Look at your art and work towards it!
9. Buy your dream outfit.
This is an old trick from the book for if you’re looking for a change in your physique. Trying to fit into those pants you’ve been eyeing or that dress you’ve been dying to purchase? Go ahead and buy it in the size that you’re trying to achieve. Try it on and visualize how much work you have to do until you reach your goal, and then use it as motivation.
10. Remember why you want to be healthy.
Your body has been through everything with you. In order to continue this journey, you have to give it all the tools needed for success. Everyone’s version of success is different, and once you find what yours is, your health journey will feel more like one of self-love.
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Walking Into Your Purpose As A Creative
For many creatives, quarantine brought a since of uncertainty, but also time to prepare and gain clarity on career endeavors. Walking into your purpose as a creative is a journey.
By: James Teague
Ever since the start of the pandemic for COVID-19, I’ve been focusing more on making creative content. When society decided to shut down and go into quarantine, I recognized there was more time to put my focus and energy towards working on my goals. Working towards my goals of planning and creating content during COVID-19 hasn’t been an easy task.
It has its moments each and every other week. One week I could be inspired and ready to tap in and put all my ideas together and have a plan. Then the next week I’m feeling lazy and unmotivated wondering where did all my creative energy go. One day during quarantine, I remember while working on this writing I had asked for some feedback. They asked me if I knew what my purpose was. When I started to formulate an answer, my mind was drawing a blank. At first, it threw me off for a minute. I was thinking about how even with my experience from the last 3 years which helped shape me all around as a growing young man that I still didn't know my purpose. After about those few minutes of wrestling with my realization,, I concluded that I still not sure about what my purpose was.
For several years, I’ve been on this personal journey discovering who I am and what God wants me to learn while I'm still here. Living through each stage of my life, I knew deep down there’s just so much more towards life than just simply waking up, going to work, paying your bills, and dying. The one thing that I know for certain is that God has blessed me with the gift of writing and storytelling. As a creative writer, when I put time and effort towards focusing on my craft, I can paint a real vivid picture with my writing. I would always hear about the concept “walking in your purpose,” and I would equate that towards having a job/career. I’ve been learning more recently that one doesn’t have to really equate to the other.
Even though at times I’m still dealing with “imposter syndrome,” I’m reminded through the messages God sends me whether from my peers paying attention to how I construct my social media or if I happen to see random messages that suddenly grab my attention. I'm working towards owning my role more as a creative content writer. Doing this I understand that it’s going to take focus, discipline, patience, and lastly faith in God & in myself. Becoming the best version of you doesn’t happen overnight. One of the bright sides about my COVID-19 experience was recognizing how blessed that I am during this time of the unknown. When I know that during a pandemic that I still have a stable job, stable income plus finally budgeting my finances and paying off on my bills, you really realize in these moments that sometimes it’s really just the simple things that matter.
But I can't help to think that even with what I've manifested and accomplished, I can do so much better on my walk as a writer as long as I can focus more on being consistent and executing my plans on making my dream life come to fruition. I’ve always been writing since childhood. I first started writing fictional dragon ball Z stories and then in high school I graduated to writing music reviews and talking about the school sports teams. I wrote for my university's school newspaper and covered important figures at my university and in the city. I also continued writing music reviews. Then after graduation, I joined Elite Daily that summer and started doing freelance writing on life topics that millennials were dealing with such as dating and my own personal experiences. And yes you guessed it, I was covering topics on music and entertainment.
Throughout the course of my time I’ve written for different publications and platforms. The more I think clearly on the content I've done, I realize that I actually know what it is I want with my dreams. Really I can sometimes just lack the direction of really knowing how to start and where to take my ideas. I'm constantly looking and searching for the answers. It gets frustrating when the answers don't come to me at that exact moment. I’ve learned more on this journey that sometimes it just takes time for an answer to reveal its. Patience has really been a virtue to me in this process.
The thing that keeps me committed to my journey as a creative is keeping my focus on God and allowing him to lead the way on what my options are. As creatives, when we're working towards our higher selves, it's important to understand that God is forever tied towards our gifts because he is the one who ordained us the role that we currently have with “walking into our purpose.” When you’re having a hard time wanting to know and understand what it is that God wants you to do with your purpose, the best thing to do is practice what Matthew 6:33 says. “Seek out God & then eventually God will find you.” When walking in your purpose (whether you're a creative or not), it’s important to really understand that this walk takes time.
We don’t have the answers for the questions that we ask God. Through time and devotion, eventually God will reveal his answer to you when the time comes. We all are living in seasons. Sometimes the current season that you’re in is just the “waiting season.” Until it’s THAT season, live and create one day at a time. Do whatever it takes and do whatever makes your spirit feel good. This isn't a normal time at all with COVID-19 going on. Only time will tell once we realize that we’re finally starting to walk in our purpose.
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9 Tips For Increasing Your Energy in Low Times
During this rising pandemic, it can be easy to fall into a funk or experience lack of motivation. Here are 9 tips for increasing your energy in low times!
By: Lauryn Bass
During this rising pandemic, it can be easy to fall into a funk. With this new social isolation, a lot of us are challenged with our priorities. The atmosphere of summer is being toyed with the work that is being stacked on our heads. Students and adults are having to telecommute within the comfort of their beds which may lead to distractions or a lack of motivation. This transition has plenty of opportunity to go left or right, but it is up to you to steer the course into a successful direction. All that is needed is a shift of energy in a couple of different ways.
1. Keep Water In Your System
Staying hydrated will keep you on task. When the body gets dehydrated, the body becomes lethargic. It slows down progress when the tank isn’t full, so fill up on some h20!
2. Set Goals
Work tends to pile up as things are balancing out. For example, with online classes becoming the predominant form of teaching for students who are used to on-campus learning, to compensate for the homework, lectures have transitioned to packets, worksheets, and other unnecessary assignments. As you try to tackle each project, plan how to reach the long-term goal with short-term goals.
3. Take Breaks
In between each set increment, take some time to breathe. Get up and move around. Sing or do a little dance. Check on your notifications, plants, pets, or just walk around to unwind for a minute before refocusing back to your target.
4. Get More Sleep
Now that beds are a lot more convenient to use, take advantage of power naps! Get that little wink of sleep in between the day’s duties. Also, at night, try to get more sleep. Aim for that 7-8 hour mark of shut-eye so that while you're busy with objectives, the bed won’t be calling your name.
5. Eat Clean
Don’t fall into a pit of unfulfilling foods. With the scarcity of food, try to snack on items that give you lasting energy over sugar-filled items that run through you. Indulge here and there, but keep your meals centered around nutrients and vitamins.
6. Go On DND
This alone time can open up a space for creativity. Ideas can flow and there is ample opportunity to build new things. Take a break from social media and allow your time to be used up by other interests of yours that may have become an overlooked hobby.
7. Stay Optimistic
Fake news is real honey! Trying to fish through what is made up from the darkness of the truth can be very overwhelming and begin to spread negativity. Continue to keep high-spirits by constantly reassuring yourself. Staying grounded can be achieved through reciting positive affirmations or posting them around you to keep you uplifted. Things ARE going to get better and you WILL succeed!
8. Reach Out To Friends
Even though you’re separated physically, communication with your besties can be achieved via technology! Find innovative ways to call them as we did with Oovoo, Houseparty, and Skype. Send iPhone games, start streaks, schedule FaceTimes and truly catch up with your loved ones in an intimate way that may not have been explored when life as we knew it was on a different track.
9. Exercise
Get yourself moving! Even if it’s for 15 minutes a day, take a nice walk, jog, or run! Stretch and use joints that would be dormant on a norm. Dance, jumprope, bike, skate, etc. The list is endless!
The coronavirus may have shut down society but it does not have to shut you down! Little by little, this challenge will be overcome with our perseverance. This reality check is only helping us come face-to-face with who we are as people and helping us use what we have learned and built for better. With these few reminders to attach to our day, society will soon return to a new way that we appreciate and we will be stronger from it.
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New Year, New Energy! Switching Up Your Work And Living Spaces Creates A Positive Vibe
It is scientifically proven that your psyche is affected by what is around you! Here are a few ways that you can set up your home to benefit your life in the best way possible!
By: Lauryn Bass
It is FINALLY 2020, the year we have all been waiting for! Whether it is “The year of vision” or “The year of clarity”, this new decade is sure to bring ideas into fruition! Goals are being set and everyone is ready to chase the bag, but no one is truly considering how to strategically plan for a successful year. The dream starts and ends at home, so let’s get the house in order!
It is scientifically proven that your psyche is affected by what is around you. For example, you think more clearly in a clean room than you would in a messy one. There are a few ways that you can set up your home to benefit your life in the best way possible!
Clean your space
Get rid of the clutter! Throw away old utensils, shred old files, and toss that project from the second grade. Anything that does not coincide with your 2020 success HAS TO GO! Periodically wipe down your laptop monitors and desk, dust your window sill, and lysol everything else! Things can get untidy throughout the year but taking the time to get rid of unnecessary items is key to excelling. When you are in a dirty place, you are uncomfortable and unfocused. Bring back the sense of organization and urge that grind mentality to soar with fresh new start!
Rearrange your space
With the items that are needed for your growth and matriculation, give each one their own home. Every place should be organized in a safe way that is easily accessible for you. From your pens and pencils, to your mics and interfaces, everything should have its own destination. Also, switch things up! Stimulate your brain with a funky set up. Catercorner your desk or move something to a shelf. If we can adapt to new updates on our apps and devices, we can surely adjust to a desk being placed on a different wall and our beds turned another direction. Trying out a little feng shui can give your workspace a touch of liveliness.
Decorate your space
Now for the fun part: It’s time to spruce up your home with some eye-catching features! Don’t be afraid of color-coding, the more the merrier! Add an interesting painting to your wall, buy a new calendar, and most definitely purchase yourself a plant. Create a vision board of all the goals that you would like to achieve this year or within this new decade and pin it up as your daily motivation. Place sticky-notes of positive affirmations around the home to constantly remind yourself that everything that you wish to come true, will--there is power in the tongue!
This new year of 2020 is going to be prosperous. It’s going to bring forth so many good things for everyone who is prepared to receive challenges and overcome them with ease. To aid in this journey, keeping your work and living quarters aligned and clean will embark you into a happy new year!
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How I Learned To Manifest Opportunities With This 3 Step Morning Routine
Calling in new opportunities into your life is real, with set intention. Here is a need to know morning routine that will help you manifest exactly what you want!
By: Omar Cook
This is not a cliche YouTube or blog post about manifesting, this is me telling you exactly what has worked for me. Free game. As we all evolve on our spiritual journey, we learn what works for us, and one of the things I’ve learned is how to manipulate my own reality through the power of intention.
For a long time, we’ve been given this cookie cutter ideal of life; go to school, graduate, get a job, go to church on Sunday’s, get married, have kids, and settle down and retire. Sounds good. But I want more than that.
I believe that the world has much deeper layers than the physical things that we see, and that we can manipulate what happens in our lives with mental spiritual practices. The Law of attraction is a real thing and you can attract whatever it is that you want just by believing you can have it. The key to manifesting anything is BELIEVING IN YOURSELF, believing that you can have anything. Just imagine if every single black child in America believed in themselves with 100% supreme confidence. I believe I can have anything I want and that was the first step to changing the world around me.
I’m going to give you my 3 step routine for manifesting your desires and new opportunities. It’s a simple morning routine that will take about an hour of your time. This is not geared towards a certain religion, this is geared towards you as a powerful spiritual being. Read it below!
1. Write Everything Down
When I say write everything down, I mean EVERYTHING. I start my day off by writing first so I can see my thoughts, and set my intentions for my day. I ran into another young man at Church one day who randomly told me to start writing things down. Since then, I went and grabbed a journal. You can call this your prayer journal, manifestation journal, whatever, just know it’s going to be the key to bringing your desires to real life. You can start off by journaling weekly, or everyday, whichever suits you best. When writing things down, I write as if I’m speaking a prayer. My journal entry serves as an opportunity to release my own worries and doubts and an opportunity to call in new things. I free write where I just let my own thoughts flow and then I write my intentions and desires.
Now here’s the key. You write your goals and desires down as something that you would like to have...and then you write it as if you already have it. Example, I may write “I would like to have to more opportunities to advance in my career field”. Writing as if I already have it would look like “Thank you for the abundance of opportunities to advance in my career field that are around me” or “More opportunities to advance in career are on the way.” This is how you call in what you want by creating a feeling of already having it. The universe works in crazy ways, but it’s important that we learn to manipulate it while we’re playing this game of life. This universe we live in is built on energy, and by projecting an energy of gratitude, you will receive more of what you are thankful for, even if you don’t already have it. Don’t believe me, try this shit.
I’ve written down every single thing that I want to happen in my life, at least for my near future, whether that’s with business ideas, career goals, relationships, and financial goals. As soon as you make your intentions clear, this Universe will begin placing people and situations around that will help support your goals. It won’t always look like how you want, but it’s up to you to recognize the signs and synchronicities that are presented to you that will let you know how to move forward. The saying be careful what you ask for, is REAL. There have been people and situations that I called into my life and when it was time for me to experience these things, I realized it wasn’t what I wanted in the long run. But it was exactly what I asked for. Be intentional, be specific, and write out your intentions. This will change your life.
2. Prayer
After I have spent my time journaling, I get on my knees and I pray. If you have a space, like a closet, this will work better. Getting into a prayer closet creates an intimate environment between you and God where you can communicate. The same exact things I just wrote about, I speak it verbally in the form of prayer. The power of prayer is real, no matter what religion you practice. This world is a spiritual realm, more spiritual than physical, whether you believe that or not. And the power of your tongue is an extremely powerful tool. I’ve gotten to the point where I watch what I say towards people and especially myself. A lot of times we are our own worst enemies by speaking down on ourselves. When in reality, we are our own best friends and we should be speaking life into ourselves.
Praying and communicating your desires to God let’s the Universe know your thoughts and desires directly. Don’t put a time limit on your prayer, just go until you have nothing left to be said. Express your worries and doubts but don’t make your prayer a prayer that sounds needy, always fill it with gratitude. Let God know you are thankful for the things you have now and are thankful for what’s to come. GRATITUDE and creating the feeling of gratitude is essential to calling in blessings. Major. By praying right after you journal, you have basically multiplied the strength of your power by 2, now there’s no question that your intentions have been heard.
3. Meditation
Mediation is just as important as the other 2. I set my timer for exactly 11:11 minutes. Why? Because 1111 is the number you make a wish on and in meditation, you are basically going into a dream world of your own thoughts, where you are creating your reality. You can meditate for however long you choose, that’s your personal time. Personally, if I spend too long meditating my mind wonders so about 10 minutes is a good time.
This time you spend in silence, you are reflecting on what you wrote and prayed about and create that reality in your head and see what it would like to have everything you desire. This is an intimate time that you spend with yourself and connect with God as well. This time in silence can result in you getting answers that you’ve been searching for. Just like journaling and praying, this is a time for being intentional. Focus your thoughts on exactly what you want and play it out in your mind. By writing, praying, and meditating, you have expressed your desires in 3 different ways to the universe in a matter of an hour. It’s extremely powerful and you will begin to feel the power within you as you build consistency with this.
I want each and every one of you to live a dope life, and this routine I gave you is a sure way to change your life. Tap into the power that you have within you and start manifesting exactly what you want.
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The Art Of Networking: 3 Easy Tips To Becoming A Master Networker
A college degree may be necessary to get your foot in the door, but the art of networking can open doors that your degree will not! Here are 3 easy tips to help you become a master networker!
By: Omar Cook
A college degree may be necessary to get your foot in the door for a lot of professions, but the art of networking can open doors that your degree will not. Why is this so? Because people will relate to you more as a real individual rather than the accolades you put down on a piece of paper (your resume). Networking is a skill that takes practice. It’s not an easy task to walk up to a stranger and strike a conversation, but it is a necessary skill that is required for anyone that is looking to level up in any kind of way. In today’s world, communication and being able to sell yourself can take you to new heights.
I could give you a lengthy post of 20 tips on how to effectively network, but I will save that for an additional post. So I’m giving you 3 easy tips to help you become a master networker! Apply these tips and watch your circle of influence change!
1. Always Carry Business Cards
I cannot stress this enough, carrying a business card is extremely important. If you’re a person that’s in business for themselves or you have a brand that you feel people need to know about, it’s a must that you carry a business card on you at all times. You just never know who you’re going to meet. A lot of times people don’t have time to sit and wait for you to input their number and contact info into your phone, so handing them a business card is a quick and easy way to get your info in the right hands. And if you’re dealing with people who are truly professional, most of the time they will ask you if you have a business card. It took me a few times of being asked for a card to realize that this was a big deal and that I needed to have this. A true business owner and master networker is always ready with a card on deck. You can get a box of 500 cards for just $30 on vista print. Don’t miss an opportunity because you were unprepared!
2. Always Be Yourself
Don’t be that person that finally gets in front of someone you’ve been waiting to meet for the longest and blows the opportunity because you were trying to be someone you’re not. The right people will love you for who you are, so if you’re having to put on a front to impress someone, it’s a good chance that it’s not a right fit. Let’s say you meet someone but you met them with a false persona; now you have to work harder to keep up the front! Who has time for that? People will be able to tell the real from the fake and the best relationships you make will always be through genuine interactions. Just being myself has opened up so many doors for me. A person just may give you an opportunity that you may not be fully qualified for just based off your personality and attitude. Be true to yourself and you will attract the right opportunities into your life!
3. Always Follow Up
After you’ve locked in that dope new contact that you just met by exchanging business cards and being yourself, it’s a MUST that you follow up with that person. Just sending a short message of gratitude explaining how it was nice to meet them and you look forward to speaking with them soon can go a long way. Not only do they have your contact, but now they know you’re serious about working with them because you took the time out to follow up. This is where the magic happens. The follow up can lead to job opportunities, meetings, and further communication. Make sure that you’re following up in a professional manner that’s straight to the point!
I want all of you to land that dream opportunity that you’ve been hoping for so I hope these tips will guide you in building your network! Be blessed!
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Keeping A Positive Mindset During Times Of Adversity Is Not Easy, But Necessary
Somethings are just out of our control, but what you can control is attitude and how you respond! Here are some tips to help you change your perspective towards adversity!
By: Omar Cook
One of the hardest things to do is to stay positive during times of adversity. The easiest thing to do is to look at your current situation and start to overthink all of the negativity that could be surrounding you, instead of looking at it from another angle. Sometimes life can become so overbearing that it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. There has been many times where i’ve posed the question “why is this happening to me?” (or not happening for me"). Asking this question to myself enough times, only left me with the option of changing my perspective.
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The first thing a lot of us do when something bad happens, is complain about it and sit in that energy for just a little too long, which of course attracts more bad energy. Shit happens, and there’s absolutely nothing you can do to stop adverse situations from coming into your life; it’s inevitable. Somethings are just out of our control, but what you can control is attitude and how you respond.
I mentioned perspective, and changing your perspective towards situations is a major key for a positive mindset. It’s almost impossible to keep a positive mindset at all times, but knowing that you have the power to shift your own perspective can change your own life. Imagine that every negative situation that happens to you, you looked at that situation as an opportunity to better yourself? Lost your job? An opportunity to find a better one. Wrecked your car? An opportunity to get a better car or something more affordable. Lost a relationship? An opportunity to set new boundaries for yourself to attract a relationship that better serves you. Setbacks are just opportunities for you to recreate yourself, and thats the way you need to think in order to turn negative situations into a positive.
At the end of the day, each of us are in control of our own lives and the way we think. Your own mindset puts meaning on things that happen in your life; basically you create your own reality by the way you view the world. A negative person will continue to attract negative situations because they can’t see themselves out of certain situations. A positive person attracts successful situations because no matter what, that person knows that they can turn just about anything into a situation that serves them in the end.
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One thing that has worked for me is speaking highly of my own self. Positive affirmations works wonders for your mindset and speaking affirmations to yourself daily, can change your life. Meditation is also great as it gives you time to spend with yourself in silence and process your thoughts. Being able to sit in silence and block out distractions is major for seeing things in a better light, and can help your decision making especially if you’re an overly emotional person that acts impulsively. Take time to quiet your mind each day, and do yourself a favor and speak life into yourself. Life is crazy enough, there’s no need to beat your own self up.
Every single person goes through adverse situations, but the people that are able to keep it pushing no matter the circumstances are the people that you see winning. Whatever comes your way, just keep going! Hard times will pass and with the right attitude, you can overcome any obstacle. I want each and every one of you reading this to be the best versions of yourselves, and it’s impossible to be the best you when you’re operating on a low vibration of energy. Think positive, speak positive, and watch your life take a new direction!
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Top 5 Life Lessons You Learn From Losing A Parent
Losing a parent is an unfortunate event we all will have to encounter eventually. Here are 5 life lessons to take away when your faced with losing a parent sooner than usual.
By: James Teague
Growing up, my dad would always tell me, “There’s always 3 things in life thats promised; Death, Taxes, & my jump-shot.” Even though I’d hear him out, he always lost me on the last part due to our competitive basketball nature with me wanting to beat him in one on one. As I got older, that statement revisited me on more than one occasion as I navigated through adulthood.
Death is a topic that I avoid because its tough to really analyze. There’s always a negative connotation involved with death. Oh and lets not forget the power of the tongue where you can speak something out and the universe can grant its wish. When people speak on death, God has an interesting way of sending that message to you. All that I knew for sure about death was that one day we were all going to face it differently, whether it’s with family, loved ones, or yourself.
A lot of times when you’re constantly on go living your life, and everything just seems fine and that nothing is going to happen. However, on June 8th, 2019, my father James Ray Teague was called home to God much sooner than my family had expected due to a rare but incurable brain cancer. It was one thing dealing with the death when I lost my grandparents some few years earlier but dealing with this particular loss of a parent is a different kind of beast.
I still remember talking to my mom in full about the cancer that was slowly killing my dad. I still remember feeling as if the doctors weren’t doing enough and were just telling her that and feeling like they weren’t trying hard enough to find a cure for my father. But as time progressed, I slowly realized as I would see and hear about my dad slowly deteriorating, I had realized this cancer was in fact a real thing. I spend as much time with the family as I can because I knew we were gearing up to face a life altering change that would change our family.
Needless to say even though we diligently did everything possible to prepare, my fathers transition from the real world into heaven stills hurts some. I wasn’t expecting to lose a parent so soon at this early young age. Here I was thinking that My dad was going to still be around in time to see me accomplish my biggest dreams, build my career, and start my own family and meet his future grandchildren. But God had other plans for us.
By all means, God does not make mistakes. However some things in life we can’t help but ask “Why?” I was already still processing Nipsey Hussle’s death and now I have to deal with losing my father so soon. It’s been some time now since my fathers passing and I’ve learned quite a bit during bereavement. In the weeks of my fathers passing and the time I took away from life, there was so much to take away from this entire experience with death. Here are my top 5 life lessons to take away when your faced with losing a parent sooner than usual.
1. Losing Your Parent Is A Universal Experience .
From the moment my sister, mother, and I had made our social media posts announcing my fathers passing, the phone lines got busy. I cannot tell you how many condolence texts, phone calls, tweets were received within those 72 hours. We could barely keep up with everybody. What I learned firsthand from hearing from all my friends and family that was reaching out was two things: first it felt good to know that a lot of my people were reaching out with love and care to show their concerns regarding our well being. Secondly, I was so surprised at so many people who told me about their experience losing their parent, grandparent, or someone who meant something spec
ial to them. There was way more friends of mine who experienced losing their parent and shared the same sentiments I had. At that moment it helped reassure the main thing in life, we all share similar experiences. You’re never the only one.
2. Practicing Good Karma Can Take You Far
Following up from the first lesson, so many family friends were helpful in our time of need. Whether it was helping out with caring for my fathers needs when he was still alive but sick, bringing meals to the house, or helping out financially, etc etc. I was blown away at how much support my family received. All of this was due to how great human beings my parents were. My father always had a passion for helping his community and his family through teaching and being a role model for young black boys still in school. My parents recognized that they were blessed beyond measures and always chose to pay it forward with servicing family friends and business partners whenever the opportunity presented itself. In return of all the good deeds done, everybody returned the favor when tragedy showed up in our lives. It’s always better to be a good person in life because you never know how big of the rewards God will bless you with the good deeds you commit.
3. Life Still Goes On
The main thing that’s helped me deal with death was understanding the concept of “Life still goes on.” Not only with death but whenever you’re dealing with life problems that comes our way, I’ve always learned through my experiences in life that even while dealing with something, life will still move whether you’re in it to win it or not. Plus knowing how my father thinks, he wouldn’t want my family to be walking around moping and depressed because he’s no longer here in the physical.
4. Blood Isn’t Always Thicker Than Water
Growing up in my household, family is everything. Every summer, my parents would always take my sister and I to Paducah, Kentucky to spend the summers with my Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, cousins. Those used to be the best times of our lives. Watching wrestling with my older cousin and Granddad, hanging out with my cousins when they come over, going to Dairy Queen on the weekends to get ice cream with my aunt and cousins, going to church all together, etc.
As we got older though, all of the family activities slowly declined as we were growing apart and going on different paths in life. But our grandparents were the glue that kept our family together. We would still link at my grandparents place. It may not have been like when we were younger, but we still would enjoy our family time between then and family reunions. The passing of my grandparents and my father broke the glue of my family and it was disheartening.
Prior to my father passing, I watched and recalled several incidents between family that caused me to question all of those years we had together while I was growing up. How could the family I grew up with in my 28 years here really look like strangers to me. However, while in our time of needs we had a lot of family friends be there for us when we needed it. They would help us with bills, food, run errands for us, and help watch over my sick dad, etc. They would even give us company just to help keep our spirits up and help us remember the good times in life. I guess the moral of what I’m saying overall is sometimes family isn’t always blood. It’s the people in your life who want you in theirs. The ones you accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile, and who love you no matter what.
5. Legacy Legacy Legacy
You really don’t realize how much people you know until you attend a funeral. I remember while at my Dad’s funeral running into so many old faces that I haven’t seen in a long time. Heck some of those faces I’ve literally forgot still existed. MY father had left a huge impact on his community through his acts of servitude and leadership. I couldn’t tell you how many faces had at least one great story of my dad. We’re all here on borrowed time. What’s your passion? How is it that you want to be remembered? Sometimes in life we’re always on go and we don’t stop to think that it can all be over at any given moment.
Death is already our fate but we don’t know when that day is. So while we’re still here alive and breathing, what is it that you want to accomplishment while you’re here? We only have so much time and it’s our job to make sure that we make it count. Decide now and today about how you want to shape your legacy. We all are here on this planet with a purpose God has blessed us with and its our job to fulfill his purpose. You never know when your last day on earth can be.
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“I Don’t Have To Be Your Joy”: How This Holiday Season Taught Me To Be My Joy, And My Joy Only
It's no secret that Black women are expected to take on this superhero persona, and be all things to all people. Deveney Marshall talks living a true authentic life and embracing her own emotions despite how certain people may feel in the moment.
By: Deveney Marshall
When people are asked to describe me, they normally use a bunch of positive adjectives. Then go on to elaborate on how I motivate them and put smiles on their faces, etc. In the past, I took pride in that, but for the first time last year, I found myself side-eying that aspect of myself. This past year hasn't been a very joyous one. There were a lot of days I found myself lost in a sea of sadness. I was depressed about all of the horrible things taking place in this country, and I was even more upset that I couldn't adequately express that sadness without it being misconstrued as me being the angry black girl. A label most expressive black women have heard to describe them at least once.
It's no secret that Black women are expected to take on this superhero persona, and be all things to all people. Or that when we don't we’re often labeled as "angry" or "abrasive.” Us experiencing a bad moment can turn into us having a bad personality very quickly and because of that stereotyping, most black girls find themselves having to be “on” all of the time. Unfortunately, this learned behavior places black women into one of two categories: the black girl that you can always emotionally depend on or the black girl that's ”careless” and "selfish."
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This holiday season, I made a conscientious decision I wasn't going to be the first one. I refused to be the go-to girl to put a smile on everyone's face. I was not in a festive mood, and I wasn't going to fake being happy just to not be labeled. This world comes with enough emotional trauma and the last thing we as Black women should have to worry about is being emotional waste bins for everyone else. Especially since when it is our turn to be supported usually no one can be found, or we're met with words like "you're strong, you'll be fine."
When the year began I made a promise to myself I was going to live a more authentic life. I promised myself that I would fully embrace whatever emotion I was feeling in any moment and if that made those around me feel uncomfortable that was not my problem. I had fulfilled that promise to myself for 11 long months and I was not going to break it just because it's Christmas time and I’m supposed to be in a happy mood. To some, it may not be that serious, but to me it was. Sticking to your guns is not something people expect from Black women and doing so helped me free myself in ways I didn't know I could.
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As I write this now, I'm fully in the Christmas spirit. I'm excited to give gifts to my loved ones, and decorate my Christmas tree, but I didn't get to this place until I was darn good and ready. Let this post always serve as a reminder that you don't have to be what you don't want to be. If you're not feeling a positive emotion in a moment that's okay. Your life is for you, your feelings are for you, and if that upsets the people around you then they were never about you or your peace in the first place.
Remember this holiday to tis the season however you like.
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Get It Done! | 5 Tips To Staying Motivated And Accomplishing Your Goals
New Years resolutions can add a lot of pressure by trying to stick to your new plan for the year. Here are 5 tips to staying motivated and accomplishing your goals!
By: Tasha Hough
Hey guys, so it's the end of the year and everyone is on a frenzy trying to get their New Year's resolution together right? Right. Here's the thing... Don't do that. You put so much pressure on the first of the year that you forget to just actually live your life how you want to live. Most importantly, you put so much pressure on January that by February you’re over it so you’re back to the old habits. I have a few tips of what helped me this year to actually completing things & staying motivated.
1. Write It Down
The first thing is actually writing it all down. Although we are in technology age I'm a firm believer in “Write It Down, Make It Happen” (This is also a book by Henriette Anne Klauser but based off the title alone you catch the drift). Once you write exactly what you want to do, with clear intentions, no matter if it's in a planner or on a sticky note on your wall, you're eventually going to get it done. Why? Because you see it you will constantly be reminded that something needs to get done; it feels good to cross things off a to-do list. I personally have a to-do list everywhere specifically to hold myself accountable.
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2. Stick To A Schedule
Put yourself on a schedule. For instance, I am a single mother, I work full-time, I create things & I’m also trying to change the mind/lives of people in urban communities all while maintaining a social life AND dating (which is a job in itself). Were you tired reading that? I was tired just typing it lmao (send help !). I can't do all of it every day, all day. To make sure everything I want or need to do gets completed in a timely manner, the schedule comes in to play. I put all of my creative things to do on Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday before 12 pm. I put all of my business things on Tuesday, Thursday. That simple. I'll go over all things on Sunday. That way I'm actually getting things done as opposed to only taking a nip off of my to do list per day because I’m trying to do everything all at once. You do what's best for you but for me it's better when I stick to certain things. It also keeps stress levels DOWN because you are pacing yourself. Rest periods are also very necessary.
3. Want It Bad Enough
Stop having resolutions that you think you should have, fully think about what YOU want to improve, have, accomplish for yourself. Write it down with CLEAR intentions then you work on it daily (or according to your schedule). I emphasize CLEAR intentions because I find that some of us are just not precise on what exactly we want. When you really tune into yourself, find out what you want to do, get real specific with things, it’s much easier to make a change. The reason some of us can’t accomplish things after the 2nd week of January is simply because we don’t want it bad enough. It hurts to come to that realization but trust me, once you get to the point that there is no other option YOU WILL MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. PERIOD. There will be no room for excuses or fear.
4. Kill Off The Procrastination
Have you ever had an idea, procrastinated, then saw your exact idea happen with someone else doing it? That is top five worst things on earth to me, especially as a creative. Remember all of that doubt you had about the idea, thinking people wouldn’t gravitate towards it, or just simply thinking it wouldn’t be successful……. Well, look at how it’s succeeding elsewhere. I read about this in a book called “Big Magic” by Elizabeth Gilbert. I believe it is a real thing. Granted, all ideas aren’t for you but you really never know which ones are if you don’t try on any of them.
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5. Just Do It
Finally, JUST DOING IT. I read loads of self-help books, I like to look at documentaries or interviews about how people started off, how they got to the point of success and the common factor is JUST DOING IT. You start by starting. You may not know how to start. You may not know where to start. Nonetheless, if you don’t start we know for sure that you will STAY in the position you are in. Don’t let 2019 pass you by with things you wanted to do in 2016, 2017, 2018
GET TO IT .
Happy New Year everyone. Let’s all KILL it in ways we never imagined. Start today with changing your life. You got this, I promise.
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The Top 4 Music Streaming Services Every Millennial Needs To Know
There are a plethora of new streaming services, which has become the new norm! We break down the top 4 streaming services to help you make the best decision that suits your music needs!
By: Eric Lewis
Music To My Ears
Apple Music vs. Spotify vs. Tidal vs. Google Play (YouTube Music)
Do you know what’s amazing about tech? It changes rapidly and without remorse. I remember 10 years ago, actually I was still carrying a CD book around. I mean, imagine carrying a full folder of CDs weighing roughly 5lbs everywhere you go with dozens of your favorite jams to ride to. Mixed playlists were all the rage at the time and a relatively unknown company by the name of Spotify was just released as an application available on certain products. The difference between it and iTunes was significant. With iTunes, you had to purchase your songs (or if you were like me, enjoy 30 seconds worth) and with Spotify, this was music you wanted on demand. Pandora had truly ushered in the era of streaming music, but Spotify grabbed the ball, ran with it and hadn’t looked back since.
My, how times have changed.
Currently there are a plethora of new streaming services, as it has now become the new normal. In fact, the market is so competitive, one has a tough decision to make in regards to choosing the best option that suits their needs. Fear not, my fellow streamers. I am here to help you decide which option to choose. I decided to break down the top 4. I was privileged enough to test drive all 4 for an extended period of time and, well, my choice may surprise you. Let’s start with the top dog, Spotify.
Spotify
Price – Free (with ads), 9.99 Premium and 14.99 for family of 6.
With over 190 million customers, Spotify is the undisputed champion of the streaming wars by a long shot. It has maintained its spot-on top by offering a free service option, which accompanies the majority of its subscribers (there are 82 million paid). The best thing about Spotify is the fact it’s on virtually everything. Whether you’re listening to it on your phone, the web, Roku, Amazon Fire TV and Echo, Google Home, Playstation, Samsung TV, cars and trucks, availability is not a problem. As a promotion until the end of the year, you can get a Google Home Mini with the purchase of the family plan. (Click here for that promo).
Apple Music
Price – 9.99 for single and 14.99 for family (No free service)
Apple Music has been gaining major traction since its launch in 2015. Formally Beats Music (which was a great service, by the way), Apple Music has been on a steady incline. It currently has 50 million paid subscribers and it’s available on all iOS devices as well as android phones. It doesn’t have the full availability as Spotify currently and it costs the same. You can subscribe to a 3-month trial. There is one major plus that none of the other aforementioned services have...Beats 1 Radio. There are prominent deejays and tastemakers in the music industry that make up Beats 1 with their own “shows”. Artists like Nicki Minaj, DJ Khaled, Frank Ocean and others also have their own show. I can say without a doubt, it is the best radio station on radio. The beauty of Beats 1 is there is no specific genre. It just plays what’s hot. At any given time, you may hear a slow jam, then a country hit and round it off with a hip-hop classic. It has been known to break artists way before terrestrial radio...and it’s free. No subscription is needed to enjoy Beats 1, however you would have to pay to stream and download music. There used to be exclusivity with certain artists releasing their albums on Apple Music first, but that is no longer the case...at least with this service.
Tidal
Price – 9.99 for premium and 19.99 for HI-FI (student price is 50% off and military price is 40% off)
Tidal is a great alternative to the top 2 services. It has been open since 2014 and has steadily been gaining a following. The coolness in Tidal is the audio quality of the songs. Believe it or not, it makes a difference, especially to audiophiles. You get to hear the quality of the music just as the artist intended you to. There is also a military discount of 40% (none of the other services offer this option). Plus you also get ALL of Beyonce and Jay-Z's albums. The other streaming platforms don’t have their full library. To some, that is a great reason to keep it. Tidal has hundreds of thousands of videos as well as scripted content available to its subscribers.
Google Play (YouTube Music):
Price – 9.99 for Music Premium and 11.99 for YouTube Premium; 14.99 for family and 19.99 for YouTube Family
YouTube Music is relatively new to the streaming service, but it’s big brother Google Play Music has been around for a long time. Before we get any further, let me explain the prices as it can get a little confusing. There are two tiers: YouTube Premium and YouTube Music Premium. The Music Premium is the cheaper of the two at 9.99/month. YouTube Premium is 11.99/month but gives you access to ad free YouTube AND YouTube Music. Oh, and you get Google Play Music for free too. You’ll get more bang for your buck if you pay the extra 2 dollars a month. The cool thing about Google Play Music is you can upload your own songs for available playback on any device that has the app...up to 50,000 songs. YouTube Music has a really cool interface and offers playlists and song choices that are pretty much spot on with your mood. Eventually they will merge Google Play Music and YouTube Music together.
So, if you’re wondering why I never talked about the amount of songs available on each platform, that’s because it’s about the same with each service. You're looking at over 40 million songs on each, but there is one that I choose to use on a consistent basis, and it’s because of what I just mentioned a few seconds ago...
YouTube Music is my favorite because it uses the power of YouTube to get those hard to find songs. I tend to go to YT often and look for old school music that I can’t find on my second choice, Apple Music. The whole Down South Hustlas double album is on YouTube, and therefore on YouTube Music. That first Hot Boyz Album called Get It How U Live? Yep, it’s there. Frank Ocean’s fascinating mixtape, Nostalgia, Ultra? Yep. The K&D Sessions by Kruder & Dorfmeister? (Great album to vibe and chill with, by the way) Found it. Plus you can download 50,000 songs on there that will be available on Google Play Music. Oh, and you get commercial free YouTube. I hate ads.
So that’s my pick for the best streaming app. I hope I gave you enough information to make a sound choice. Either way, you don’t need those stinking CDs anymore.
What’s your favorite and why? Sound off below or feel free to hit me up at @TheTmPLife on Twitter or IG.
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Tears of Strength: It's Okay To Be Emotional, Black Women
Black women are naturally expected to handle things and emotions differently than other women. However, it is very much okay be emotional! Release those feelings, dust yourself off and grow from whatever it is so you can do better!
By: Tasha Hough
I know that as a black woman I'm supposed to just naturally handle things differently than other women. I'm supposed to be able to take on more for much less. I'm supposed to never show fear, sadness, or "weakness" as a black woman. I'm just supposed to take whatever the world gives me and just deal with it because I have "shit to do". The black woman has ALWAYS been looked down on (then copied), degraded, and was damn near born with a to-do list, but I can't cry? I guess that makes sense and I'm proud to have that "tougher than nails" mentality just naturally embedded in my DNA *rolls eyes*.
*SPOILER ALERT* BLACK WOMEN NEED TO CRY TOO.
(crying can be literally or figuratively ... just RELEASE is my point)
I think because of the image the world has placed on crying (and black people overall), people tend to think that black women aren't supposed to let it out.
My question is ... what am I holding on to it, whatever IT is, for?
Better yet, we aren't supposed to have ANY emotion and the ones we are "allowed" to have usually have a negative image associated with them. For instance, if a black woman doesn't like the bullshit placed on them at the moment, decides to speak up about it, she's coined as loud, arrogant, and boisterous forever. If a black woman happens to be upset for a moment even if she is usually in good spirits, suddenly she's the angry black woman. If a black woman is genuinely happy, she must be high, or drunk because there is absolutely NO possible way a black woman can be happy JUST BECAUSE. What is she happy about right? If a black woman cries because, well that's what most humans do, she's seen as weak. **rolls eyes even harder**
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In my humble opinion, I think that the black community has to find a way to break away from the stereotype of what's considered "strong" and take their mental health a little more seriously. It takes more than just moving past things and getting to the shit we have to do. Yes, I have shit to do as well, but life is rough so sometimes a good ol ugly cry is exactly what is needed to PROPERLY move forward in life.
As a community, we have to find a way to let people know that it is very much so okay to be emotional. It is very much so okay to feel. We think having actual feelings and accepting those feelings is a bad thing. Accept however you feel, release those feelings, dust yourself off and grow from whatever it is so you can do better.
We love to shut down as well as run away from what's really going on with ourselves because we feel like we always have a task at hand. Make your next task YOU. Stop getting caught up in your drudgery routine of trying to handle it all, all at once, without even thinking about your well being; mind, body and soul. You can NOT pour from an empty glass. Take time to really clear your head somehow and get in the habit of unwinding (in a healthy ways) often.
Trust me, becoming a slave to your routine hurts you and your surroundings. In the end, it does no one any good. It is okay to take care of yourself and THEN get to the shit you have to do.
You got this.
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Take Care Of Yourself: Why You Should Practice Self-Care
As you grow older finding time for yourself becomes more of a challenge, but nothing in life should be more important than the state of your mental health! Making yourself a priority and practicing self care is necessary to change your life for the better!
By: Deveney Marshall
After all of the craziness that’s been taking place over the past few years in our country, the word self-care has become often used in everyone’s vocabulary. The term self-care is well...self-explanatory. It simply means isolating some time away from everything else in life and caring for yourself.
As you grow older finding time for yourself becomes more of a challenge. With the freedom that comes with becoming an adult, so does careers, bills, friendship circles, and love-lives. Before you know it you won’t have any real time for yourself, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and downright stressed.
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When I turned 26 I realize just how burned-out I was. As a young woman working intensely hard to turn my dreams into reality, I don’t have much downtime. I normally work between 10-12 hour days, 5-6 days per week, and still attempt to maintain a social life. It wasn’t until one day my body decided to crash and I literally couldn’t get out of bed that I realized how fatigued I was. It became clear at that moment I needed to slow the hell down. I made a promise to myself, from that day forward, I would begin to take at least 2 hours for myself each day to do absolutely nothing, and take at least one weekend a month for myself as well.
Taking wellness days per week began to help a tad, but I still found myself feeling cluttered even when I was alone. After contemplating why my days off still wasn’t contributing to me feeling well, it finally occurred to me I wasn't practicing self-care as far as my mental health was concerned. As a black person, especially as a black woman, these last few years have been incredibly emotional, and the trauma I had been experiencing weighed heavier on my conscious than I thought.
I wasn’t protecting my spirit, and the outside influences of my day-to-day were affecting me mentally and spiritually. I thought if I ignored the negative things taking place around me then they wouldn't affect me, but avoiding the problems of the world only made me more numb to them, and not forget them. Once I was alone, I was forced to deal with my inner-thoughts and they were LOUD. It became apparent in order for me to begin to truly practice self-wellness I would have to learn how to deal.
I began to give myself permission to feel, and express whatever I was feeling about a particular topic in that present moment. It did wonders for my well-being, but unfortunately, when you’re an expressive black woman you get the label of being angry. However, my mental health was way more important than any person’s opinion of me. Once I fully committed to making the art of self-care a routine practice, I actually began to see improvements within myself. My skin glowed more, I became much calmer and noticeably happier. I grew into this person whose level of chill was even unrecognizable to myself.
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Now, I have the art of self-care down to a tee, and I just want to encourage others to do the same. Nothing in life should be more important than the state of your mental health. Start being kinder to yourself; Being a little more selfish. Take some real time to invest in you and your needs. There is nothing wrong with putting yourself first!
If you haven't developed a self-care routine I highly suggest you do so. I promise once you do, you’ll begin to see your life change for the better.
Happy Self-Care,
Deveney M.
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28 Years, 28 Lessons Taught By Life
The more life we live, the more lessons we learn on the way! Here are 28 important things you need to learn in life!
By: Deveney Marshall
It seems like just yesterday I was a little girl ready to embrace all of the many things life had to offer, so to think that I turned 28 last week is mind-boggling. Over the years, I’ve been blessed to have some incredible experiences, and of course, I’ve had some not-so-great ones as well. All in all, I’ve learned some important lessons along the way, and though I wish I could have avoided learning some of them, I wouldn’t be the woman I am today if I hadn’t had those experiences.
In honor of the 28 years I’ve been on this earth, I’ve listed 28 grand lessons life has taught me thus far below.
1. Be Yourself. (Everyone else is already taken.)
In life we can fall into the trap of thinking we need to be someone else to make it in this world, but I’ve learned the only thing you need to stand out is being unapologetically yourself.
2. Happiness comes from within.
A lot of people were conditioned to believe happiness is something that can only be created with the help of someone else or from material things, but I’m here to tell you that is very wrong. Genuine happiness comes for deep within you, and it can only be felt after self-reflection, self-work, and acceptance.
3. Whatever you put out into the universe, you will get back. (Whether it be good or negative energy.)
Karma is not a fictitious thing, it is very real, and what you display in this life will always come back to find you. Try to always put out the type of energy you want to receive from others.
4. Everything is not for everybody. (Just because something is the status quo, doesn’t mean you need to have that thing as well.)
In life, and especially in this day and age of social media, we all believe we have to have the same goals, lifestyles, and experiences but your life should be tailored to the person you are. You don’t have to partake in anything that doesn’t feel right to you.
5. It’s okay not to be perfect.
Thanks to social media it’s very easy for everyone to portray a picture perfect life, but this journey we call life has many ups and downs, and no one is immune to experiencing either one.
6. Stop worrying about having it all together. (You will figure it all out, in due time, and if you never figure it out that’s okay too.)
Your twenties are for learning, trial & error, and growing, you do not have to have every detail of your life perfectly put together. Everything will happen just as it’s supposed to.
7. If it doesn’t feel right within your soul do not do it.
Over the years I’ve had to learn to trust my intuition more than ever before, and one thing I can say is if you listen to it, it will never steer you wrong.
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8. It’s okay to have different friends for different things. (Just don’t forget the people that have been there for you since day one.)
As my career grows, the friendships I have expanded as well. I now have industry friends, blogger friends, and of course my faithful friendship circle. They all play different roles and bring something different to my life. I know we’ve all been taught that having a multitude of friends isn’t good, but as I grow older I realize it’s necessary. It’s important to have different friends to go to for different aspects of your life.
9. Don’t push yourself into something you know you are not ready for.
I often see people allow themselves to be pushed in paths they know they aren’t ready to take yet. No one knows what’s best for you quite like you do. Listen to your intuition when it comes to the steps you want to take next in life.
10. Dreams do come true.
I’ve always been a person who believed dreams can come true, and over the last few years I’ve learned just how true that is. If you work hard and keep God first, everything you want in this life can become yours.
11. Take care of your body, and it will be good to you.
When you’re young, taking care of your health can be the last thing on your priority list. The sooner you care for your body by watching what you consume, you’ll immediately see a positive change within yourself.
12. Relationships are hard work and should be taken seriously.
A lot of people view relationships as something to do when there’s nothing to do, but they are not that simple. Real relationships take commitment, honesty, and two already complete individuals to have the best outcome. If you know you’re not ready to give that to someone, enjoy your own company and just casually date until you are.
13. Savor each and every moment of life.
None of us know how long we all will be on this earth, spend as much time enjoying your life as possible.
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14. Don’t allow society to determine who you’re supposed to be.
You have the right to be whoever you want to be in life whether it makes sense to others or not, remember that.
15. Surround yourself with beautiful, kindred souls.
The people you allow in your life will always have an affect on you as a person, make sure the individuals you allow into your spaces leave you feeling uplifted and empowered.
16. Your word is all you have.
I grew up being told ”your word is your bond.” Do not tell someone you are going to do something and don’t.
17. Be kind to your skin.
Taking care of your skin early on is a must, and the secret to remaining youthful forever. Make sure you exfoliate, moisturize, and drink lots of water.
18. Music makes everything in life better.
What you listen to has the power to turn any situation around, and set the entire tone for your life.
19. Don’t ask for respect, demand it.
Experience has taught me when you take yourself seriously, everyone else does also, don’t go around asking for respect from others, show why you deserve it instead.
20. Don’t force something that’s not meant to be.
When something is truly meant to be, it will naturally happen, and always fall right into place.
21. Take time to meditate every week.
Caring for your mental health is one of the most important things we can do for our survival. Do whatever makes you feel most centered on a weekly basis. If your soul is not well, your life will not be either.
22. Be grateful.
We tend to equate being grateful with remaining humble but I’m here to tell you no matter where you are in your life you are blessed. Never forget that.
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23. You don’t know everything, and you never will.
Even the most highly accoladed scholars don’t know everything there is to know about life. Life is a constant journey of learning and evolving, and you should be doing both as long as you are breathing.
24. Know when to listen, and know when to disregard.
As a type a Virgo, I’m always “on it.” I’m one of those people that can gather all I need to know with just one glance and one listen, however over time I had to learn it is not wise to be this way. It’s okay to take heed to the advice of others and hear what they gathered from an experience as well. Do you have to negate what you believe? Not at all, but it’s important to listen to the viewpoints of others.
25. You will fail and you will be fine.
The older I become, the more I learn that failure is inevitable. Not everything will work out the way you envisioned and that’s okay, God usually has a better plan for you anyway.
26. Life is filled with an equal amount of ups and downs.
We’ve been conditioned to believe either a person can be one thing or the other, however, that is false. Just as people are a multitude of things, so is life. We will experience many emotions on this journey, both good and bad, and sometimes at the same time.
27. PRAY OFTEN.
Pray all day, every day. Even when you don’t feel a prayer is needed, pray. Prayer changes things.
28. God will always have your back, always.
God created each and every one of us for a specific reason. We all have purpose, and God will always be here to help us fulfill them. There isn’t a moment on this earth God is not there, you just have to learn to trust and believe that.
I hope the wisdom I’ve gained over the years helps you on your journey. Now ask yourself what lessons has life taught you through the years?
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The Power Of Your Thoughts: How To Manifest Your Own Reality
To change your reality, you need to change the way you think and what you think. Manifesting the life you want starts with understanding the power of your thoughts!
“Today I begin a new life for I am the master of my abilities and today is going to be a great and beautiful day!”
By: Omar Cook
We live in a society that is more advanced than ever, but with these new advancements come more distractions. The millennial generation is pushing society into the next level of humanity, which includes the freedom of thought and expression, and tearing down old societal norms. In a world that’s extremely fast paced, it seems that people are on a quest to get somewhere fast, always on the move, and always looking for the next advancement in their career and life. The quest for the next best thing in life can take a toll on you mentally if you don’t have the proper mindset for the journey you’re on.
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Where exactly are you going? Do you even know? Have you thought about it? Can you see what the destination looks like? If you can’t see where you’re going it’s virtually impossible to get there. Understand that the power of your thoughts will take you exactly where you want to go in life. The way you perceive things in your mind whether positive or negative will be manifested in your life.
Whether you accept this fact or not, as humans, your mind is connected to the universe. The energy you give off vibrates through you and sends messages to the world around you. How many times have you thought, “I’m going to get pulled over” and it actually happened? What about when you had someone on your mind and instantly you received a text or call from that person? The energy and thoughts you put out will always come back to you, whether instantly or eventually.
Training your mind to think positive and think progressively takes practice but mastering this can help you change the world around the you. You can literally create your own reality and manifest the life you want to have. Sounds cliche but it’s a simple truth. You might ask" “well why hasn’t this happened for me yet?” Whatever you’ve been praying and hoping for hasn’t happened yet because you don’t believe in it enough to keep pushing through to manifest it. If you can see it in your mind, it can be had and created. The next step after a creative vision is to work for it, work through it, and watch the vision you have manifest into reality. Nothing good comes easy, but with time, patience, and creativity, you can create yourself a better life.
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Two easy ways to practice training your mind is speaking positive affirmations daily and meditation. With daily affirmations, you are speaking life into yourself, your current situation, and your surroundings. What comes out of your mouth is a direct correlation to what’s going to happen in your life. Meditation is time spent with yourself in a quiet environment that allows you to step away from distractions and focus on your vision. It is in this time that you can spend seeing what it is you’re looking to attract in this world and play it out in your mind.
The daily distractions of this world keep people from vibrating on their highest frequency and seeing themselves clearly. If you don’t see yourself for who you are, the creator that you are, it’s impossible to create your own reality. You become what you think about. If you want to know who are going to be in 5 years, listen to how you speak about yourself now. Listen to what comes out of your mouth.
To change your environment, you need to change the way you think and what you think. Focus on what’s positive and open up your mind to allow what seems impossible to become possible. Understand the power of your thoughts and how your reality is already set out for you if that’s what you believe.
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13 Tips You Need To Know To Master Self Discipline
Mastering self discipline is essential for your journey to be successful. Here are 13 tips you need to know to master self discipline!
By: Omar Cook
Mastering self discipline is essential for your journey to be successful. If you have any aspirations of operating at the top of your niche, it is important that you conquer yourself first. The most successful people are masters of their time and discipline and don't you want to be successful? Here are 13 tips you need to know to master self discipline, and should you apply these to your life, you will be sure to be on the right track to be successful!
1. Determine What Goals to Set
What are your goals in life? Effective goal setting and setting realistic goals are keys for how to attain success in life. In order to master self discipline, you must first determine what goals to set! Start by setting the ultimate goal, the most important goal. This is your dream goal. Every other goal after this should be a step towards achieving your ultimate goal.
2. Breakdown Your Ultimate Goal
Create a list of goals to set for yourself, that reflects what you want to achieve for your ultimate goal. We all have goals and aspirations, but not everyone understands how to set goals and achieve them. Smart goal setting can eliminate a lot of time spent trying to figure things out for yourself. Time is money, and having the right set of goals can help you focus and maximize your time. Writing down your goals so that you can look at them daily makes them real for you!
3. Create a Daily Plan to Achieve Your Goal
What will you do to achieve your goals? Optimizing the goal setting process for success is bigger than just initially creating a list of goals! Working towards your goal is a daily process and requires work and discipline. Create a daily plan for how you will achieve your goals. This can be a schedule that you create for yourself to get things done by a certain time and stay on point. It can also include a list of objectives to accomplish for the day that ultimately brings you closer to achieving the main goal. A daily plan is a template for accomplishing a certain goal within that 24 hours.
4. Eliminate Distractions and Temptations
Eliminate your potential distractions and temptations from your work environment. Put yourself in an environment that will allow to focus! Sometimes turning off the phone and television can be what's best at a time that work needs to be done. Managing distractions is a necessary key for time management. There can be many distractions while working that can be present, but overcoming the temptation to get off task is a major step to mastering self discipline. Train your brain to focus even when it desires to wander elsewhere!
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5. Prioritize The Goal Before Anything Else
You have to constantly ask yourself, "How will I achieve my goals?" Accomplishing your goal should be the most important thing to you and if you're doing things that aren't helping you get closer to your goal, you need to refocus. Mastering self discipline requires focus, and structure. If you're really serious about your goal, cutting out some time from other activities so that you can spend more time progressing toward your goal is essential to your success.
6. Don't Wait For it to Feel Right
There is never a perfect time to do anything! Don't let fear or lack of knowledge in an area prevent you from taking a step towards your goal! Sometimes it's best to just go for it and make mistakes as you go, learn on the run. If you're always waiting for what seems like the perfect time, you will miss out on a lot of potential opportunities.
7. Force Yourself to do it
There will be days where you will be tired, unmotivated and a little burnt out. Take your necessary breaks but push through these times of lack of motivation and force yourself to get some work done. You will feel more accomplished after you're done working rather than thinking that you wish you would have gotten some work done.
8. Find Role Models Who Inspire You
Find people who motivate you to be better than who you already are. Find people who have done what you're trying to do on a high level and study what makes them great! Having the right people who inspire you can take your focus to the next level. Surrounding yourself with like minded individuals who also have similar goals can push you to do better as well. Analyze your environment, who you surround yourself with and make friends with people who are doing better than yourself!
9. Schedule Breaks and Reward Yourself
Taking breaks and resting is just as important as grinding! It's hard to get as much work done as you'd like when you aren't well rested. Schedule your breaks throughout the day and reward yourself for your hard work in some type of way. Keep yourself motivated!
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10. Determine That Failure is Not an Option
Self discipline requires confidence in yourself and faith that you can manifest your ultimate goal no matter what! Create a mindset for yourself that says failure is not an option. Believing that you can't allow yourself to fail will push your hunger for success to another level. Be hungry and go after what you want in an aggressive manner, and leave no regrets. This is not to say that you will not literally fail at something, but having this mindset will push you to bounce back even faster knowing that you're set on being successful. Success is your only option!
11. Keep Track of Your Progress
Keeping track of your progress gives you landmarks to try to reach for yourself. This will allow you to self analyze your production and make the necessary adjustments for improvement. Being able to self evaluate is a major key in determining what kind of success you're having and what needs to be fixed. Keeping track of progress also lets you see when improvements are being made which will keep you motivated to achieving even more success!
12. Set Monthly Milestones
Just like you practice daily goal setting, set monthly milestones that will help you dig deeper into your ultimate goal! Keeping track of your progress will help you to set realistic monthly milestones. Reaching your milestones on a consistent basis will ensure you that you are on the right track and will create a system of success for you. Over the course of a year, if you have met your monthly milestones consistently, you will have had a successful year! Success is the bar that you set for your own accomplishments, so meeting your own milestones and deadlines will guarantee success for yourself!
13. Breaking Bad Habits
Stop doing things that have proven to be non-beneficial for you. Do a self check and analyze the habits that you need to replace with something better. Time is everything and using your time to practice bad habits can be a waste of time for you and create setbacks. Being successful requires doing things that others don't do, and breaking bad habits is a step in the right direction!
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A Dream Deferred, A Purpose to be Fulfilled
Society has placed pressures on women to live a certain life by a certain age! Danielle Wright discusses her journey to living out her purpose and not being constrained by society’s expectations for women!
“There were moments this year where I really questioned what God was doing and why. Why was I going through all this and watching some of my life-long dreams slip away from me?”
By: Danielle Wright
Growing up, I thought I would be married with kids by now. I thought I would be living the life I lived growing up – traveling the world with my husband and kids, getting together with my brother and his family so that our kids would grow up together. Now, I look at my life and see that my plans were grand, but maybe not what my life was supposed to be. Let society tell it, I’ve failed as a woman and there is something wrong with me for not even being married at this point. I am a 36-year-old, single, black, Christian woman and let church folks tell it, I might be intentionally delaying my destiny.
Either way, for some reason, it seems that women are expected to live a certain life by a certain age and if we are not doing so, something must be wrong with us. This thinking – along with some of the comments directed at me – left me quite jaded for some years. Over the last few years, I really became beside myself with the things people say – no – think they have the right to say – to women. My mood had become – “Stay off my ring finger and out of my reproductive system.” I was mean because I felt disrespected.
I had to often hold my tongue so I would not say things that would intentionally hurt others, but sometimes I asked why they felt they could ask me these questions. The response was always something related to what they thought or believed a woman of my age and intelligence and whatever else should be or have. They always thought it was a compliment, but it was more a reminder that my life was not what I thought it would be… until recently.
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2018 has brought some really tough challenges for me. One of those challenges was the realization I could not have children – so all those questions about when I was going to get married and put my reproductive system to use stung even more than ever before. And while these people do not know what my situation is, it should not have mattered. There are just some things you should never say to people – asking single women why we are not married and telling us we should be having kids by now are at the top of that list (for me). Quite frankly, it’s none of anyone’s business. Some people mean well, but others are just being nosey and want to provide input and advice where they were not asked and where it is not their place.
There were moments this year where I really questioned what God was doing and why. Why was I going through all this and watching some of my life-long dreams slip away from me? Was this really what He had for me? Was this truly my destiny? I always assumed I would get married and birth some beautiful, intelligent, athletic babies – I wanted a house filled with kids. I wanted my own starting lineup! As time went on this year, I became more aware that the situation I was facing would not only threaten those dreams but kill those dreams. In May, the dream of birthing my own children was officially ousted. I was, and still am, crushed. But in my brokenness, I found something greater.
In my brokenness I found - ME.
The discomfort and the pain forced me to face a fear – the fear of living this life without fulfilling one of my greatest dreams. Deep down I know I can be a mother in so many other ways but, while I was processing this situation, I didn’t care anything about alternative means of motherhood. I wanted kids the way I wanted and was inconsolable to alternatives. But in the midst of this pain – in the midst of deep mourning and uncertainty, I found a version of myself I had never met -- stronger, more determined and more resilient. I found a version of myself that refused to succumb to my own pain or buy into anyone else’s expectations.
I truly began to see myself as a whole woman made in the image of God, not in the eyes of society. I saw myself as the alternative - having a desire to marry and have a family yet understand and being at peace with the fact that I am no less a woman if those things do not happen. I began to speak over myself the things that God said I am (Proverbs 31, Proverbs 11:16, Titus 2:3-5, Matthew 5:1-12, Psalm 8:3-8, Deuteronomy 10:17-19, and more). It’s so easy to get caught up in what others think of you and pressure yourself to fit into a mold not meant for you.
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My brokenness helped me break the mold. It helped me cry out to God in ways and with a frequency to which I was not accustomed. But I found a newer version of me - an improved version. I was finally able to accept the alternative methods of motherhood and understood that I could not have mothered anyone in my condition. I suddenly had a deeper and completely raw understanding of letting go of what I want in order for God to give me everything I need.
In May 2018 I underwent life-changing surgery. It was not what I wanted, but it was what I needed. It shifted my health and began the process of healing from a condition that had overtaken my existence - I was fatigued, in constant excruciating pain, bleeding uncontrollably and randomly and on treatments that my body was rejecting, rendering them ineffective and useless. As time has gone on since the surgery, I have learned the following:
God is greater than our plans. His forward-thinking and ability to see the best for us causes Him to work things out for us in ways that are truly beneficial for us, even if we cannot immediately recognize that work.
Our purpose is not tied up in what we’ve been through or what others say about us. Our purpose is intricately and delicately planned by God and no one’s opinion can change what He has purposed us to do.
Motherhood is more than conceiving, carrying and birthing. It is one of the most pure and divine forms of love anyone can give or receive. It is not determined by a woman’s ability to physically give birth, rather it is the ability to put yourself to the side, sacrifice, nurture, care for and raise up another human being to be the best version of themself. Women are so much more than our reproductive systems and, no matter how faulty, we are still fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God.
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God has not forgotten me. I believe He is preparing a means for me to be a mother to children who desperately need the love and care that only a mother can provide. Moreover, I know He took me through some low points to show me that neither hell, high water, low valleys, dark nights nor mourning can keep me from living in my purpose. What He has predestined for me to be, I shall be and He has equipped me with everything I need to live in that purpose.
God takes everything we are, everything we’ve been through and everything we need and creates this beautiful masterpiece - unique, beautifully flawed, priceless. I look back on what I’ve overcome and see that each stroke of God’s brush - the pain, the courageous moments, the health scares, the uncertainty, the anger and all that followed by moments of triumph, victory and joy - brought me to the point where I can now stand in the face of those things that once worried and upset me and say, “My purpose is sure.”
Physically birthing a child passed me over, but I am grateful God has held my position and reaffirmed my purpose - to be a mother.
John 15:16 - “You did not choose Me but I chose you, and appointed you that you would go and bear fruit, and that your fruit would remain, so that whatever you ask of the Father in My name He may give to you.”
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7 Powerful Affirmations For Black Millennials
Powerful affirmations are necessary for a healthy mindset and in this day and age, black millennials need positive reinforcement! Here are 7 powerful affirmations for black millennials that will help you have the right state of mind!
By: Omar Cook
Powerful affirmations are necessary for a healthy mindset and in this day and age, black millennials need positive reinforcement! Daily positive affirmations can help propel you into a positive state of thinking which can be a key factor in your success and happiness! Here are 7 powerful affirmations for black millennials that will help you have the right state of mind!
1. I can face whatever obstacle that comes my way
African American people by design have to jump through more hoops than others. But that’s okay, God didn’t give you more than you can handle! Take a positive approach to every situation and and take every adverse situation head on! There is nothing too big for you to handle!
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2. My Black is beautiful
Whatever shade of melanin you are, you are top notch! Never let anyone tell you different. You are a king, a goddess, and your skin holds power that your ancestors passed down to you! Embrace your skin and live in royalty, the way you were meant to live!
3. I am better than I was yesterday
No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes! One of your everyday goals should be aiming to be better than you were yesterday! Don’t make the same mistakes twice and learn from every situation. Success is guaranteed if you do things just a little bit better each day! What can you switch up in your routine and what do you need to cut out to propel you forward?
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4. I will not let society dictate who I am
Society has tried to engrain into the minds of American people, that black people are inferior, but guess what? That’s fake news! No fake stereotype should ever dictate who you truly are as a person! Your greatness will overshadow every naysayer and every negative comment meant to drag you down! You are not inferior so don’t let the lies of this country bring you down! Walk in power and confidence!
5. I am here for a reason
That’s right, you are here for a reason! You were born where you born at that exact location and time for a reason. You were born to the parents you have for a reason. You were born in the skin you walk in for a reason! You were born in this very time frame in history for a reason! Focus on finding your purpose in life, and live out who God called you to be! Do not go through this life waiting for something to happen! Making a difference in the world is your calling, so use the gifts and talents God gave you and start making positive changes today! Your time is now.
6. I will live life to the fullest
You can live everyday to the fullest while still working towards your goals! Do not be so consumed by work every minute of the day that you lose sight of living the best life possible! Happiness comes from daily life experiences. Do not miss out on true happiness by working yourself to death. Grind with a purpose, but prioritize time for yourself over anything!
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7. I am unstoppable if I set my mind to it
Being unstoppable is a mindset! Set your mind on things above your expectations, and believe you are a conqueror! The sooner you believe this, the sooner the doors to your dreams will open up! One success leads to another, and putting together a string of successes will give you all the confidence you need to take over the world. You are what you think, and if you believe you are anything less than unstoppable, you will be just that! Your mind will defeat you before anyone else. Take control of your mind and watch the world unfold in front of you!
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